The stress of making a decision in an unplanned pregnancy is a heavy weight carried by many women. Half of all unintended pregnancies occur while women are using birth control. Given this, when faced with the reality that their birth control failed, many women are conflicted over what to do. Abortion can be against some women’s moral or religious beliefs, complicating her decision. Plus, the public debate over abortion adds more stress to the complex choice. Many women make a pregnancy decision without an abortion consultation. But it shouldn’t be this way.

The decision to seek an abortion is multifaceted and usually heart-wrenching. This can be impacted by the reality that a woman can legally make this decision without the consent of the baby’s father. If possible, communication between partners is essential at this point. Many women state that they are waiting to hear an honest opinion from their partner.  She doesn’t want to make the decision alone. Hearing “It’s your choice. I’ll support whatever decision you make” is not being a “partner” in the choice – but leaving her alone to choose between abortion, parenting and adoption on her own.  

At this point, she is in a crisis situation and needs support.  She may feel very alone and unable to confide in many people. When a partner, family member or trusted friend doesn’t speak up, it can be perceived that abortion is the only answer. A woman often appreciates the assurance that she is not alone in making a decision that will greatly impact her future. Once chosen, abortion is a final decision and there is no turning back.