Finding Yourself After Birth?

It may seem like just yesterday you took that pregnancy test and saw baby on the ultrasound machine; fast forward 9 months and, after birth, you may now be wondering, “How do I find me again?”

There are numerous changes that occur after birth. Your body is physically acclimating to the change of hormones and you’re adjusting to a newborn baby’s feeding, sleeping, and crying cues.

Added to that, you’re juggling your old routine with household chores or work, and having to find time to eat, shower, and sleep. It can be a lot, especially if you are lacking the support of a partner or village.

First, know you are not being selfish by wishing you had more time for basic needs or hobbies. Basic needs like sleep, food, and showering are necessities and vital to your well-being. A good night’s sleep, an uninterrupted meal, and a hot shower can make all the difference and can serve as a reset button for your day.

Secondly, find someone to talk to.This can be your partner, family member, friend, or therapist. Let them in on how you’re feeling and adjusting after birth.

If you need assistance, tell them how they can specifically help, whether that be unloading the dishes or watching your infant long enough for you to brush your teeth and get dressed.

After birth, allow yourself time to adjust. We live in the day where you go on social media and find post-partum women exercising or doing a full day of grocery-shopping, cleaning, and cooking.

However, understand that behind the scenes their postpartum journey could still look a lot like yours. So, try not to compare your postpartum journey with what you see on social media platforms.