Is It Wrong to Bring a Child Into This World?

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Is it Wrong to Bring a Child Into this World?

If this a question you are grappling with, give yourself the necessary space and time to think it through

Perhaps you’ve heard the question. Perhaps you’ve asked it yourselfPerhaps for the first time in your life a positive pregnancy test has made it more than rhetorical – Is it wrong to bring a child into this world? It’s a question human beings have been asking for a long time. Throw in a worldwide pandemic, the threat of nuclear war, or a protestor with the sign “I wish my mom had aborted me” and one can’t help but think maybeMaybe it is wrong to add another human being to this insufferable place. And there’s nothing like an unplanned pregnancy to turn your world upside down and make you ponder such a deep dark question.

If only you could look into the future and ask your unborn child if they want to be here. But no, that’s not possible. This is a decision you must make. Let me offer at least three reasons why you might want to consider bringing a child into this world. 

First, let’s consider the times. No doubt this is a dark time in human history. Never before has a worldwide pandemic had such profound and long-lasting consequences. Not only have more than one million people died, but billions more continue to live under the threat of serious illness. And then there is the possibility of nuclear war because of the Russian invasion of Ukraine. And one doesn’t have to look solely to worldwide or global conflicts. There are problems in our own country as well; racial tensions, political tensions, environmental concerns, to name a few. All valid. All deeply concerning. 

But here’s the truth. There has always been sickness. There has always been war. There has always been tension.  Looking to our past we see life in the Middle Ages was brutal, full of death and disease. To live during any of the great world wars has been the destiny of billions. And yet, people have always continued to have children. If people then had stopped hoping for a brighter future and a better world, where would that leave us today? It just might be that love of family and a desire to provide and protect those we love might be the very fuel that compels us to keep reproducing. 

Second, let’s consider the economy. Some will argue our current economic climate is too uncertain, too unstable, to create the kind of world necessary for children to flourish. But any good business student can tell you there have always been and there will always be business cycles. Many living today remember the high inflation and gas lines in the 70’s.  As we approach double digit inflation once again, we realize this too shall pass. Ask any baby boomer and they are just as likely to have held a mortgage with a 10% mortgage rate (typical in the 80’s) as one at 2% (more recent). You can take a look at historical mortgage interest rates here. So remember, times change. This may be a challenging time to bring a child into this world, but if you follow some basic common-sense rules (like saving 10% of what you earn and living on less than you make), you will weather this storm and can reasonably expect better times to come.

Finally, and most importantly, let’s consider the future. Many will argue that more children mean a further strain on planet Earth’s resources. This may be true. The UN estimates our planet will add another 2 billion residents in the next 30 years, placing the population at about 9.7 billion people. However, it is also true that there is a slowing global fertility rate that might push the fertility rate below the 2.1 births per woman necessary to avoid an overall population decline in the long run. By 2050 the UN expects as many as 55 countries will have declining populations due to declining fertility rates. So the concern about the impact on future resources is at least mitigated by the slowing global fertility rate. You can read more about these estimates here.

So if it is good and right to at least think about the negative impact more children might have on this planet, is it not also good and right to think about the potential good? In other words, what is the potential positive future impact of these children? Well, for one thing, how about their minds? How about their creativity? How about their determination and drive? Our planet has many problems, yes. But it will take new and innovative ideas to solve those problems. If everyone decides the negative outweighs the positive, that fertility rate might just drop to the point where we deprive this world of the very thing it needs to survive…the human race.

So while each person must decide for themselves whether or not to bring a child into this world, it is important to remember there is much to consider. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, and this a question you are grappling with, give yourself the necessary space and time to think it through. 

At Alcove Health Women’s Clinic in Newport News, VA, we understand this is a weighty decision. We want to give you a safe place to process all of your options and to get the medically necessary information you need to make an informed decision. We offer pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, STD/STI testing, and options consultations. And we do it all at no cost to you. So you can take the time you need to slow down and think more deeply about how you want to move forward. Call us today or click here and request an appointment. We are here for you and we want to help.

By Sheri, Advocacy Manager

June 17, 2022

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Unplanned Pregnancy

An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean you have to change your goals, it just means you need to make a plan.

If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering what to do next. A positive pregnancy test may have you feeling overwhelmed with all the concerns that come with an unplanned pregnancy.

There are definitely things to do – and we will help with that. But first, let’s take a minute to think about a few things in a different way.

Imagine a day that you’ve gotten up early enough to shower, eat breakfast, do your hair, and STILL be on time for class or work. What a great feeling, right? You pat yourself on the back and head out with full vibes of positivity. You jump in the car and head down the interstate. Then…all of a sudden you see a sign that says, “DETOUR AHEAD” or “ROAD CLOSED”.

What do you do now?

You have to change your morning routine. You have to recalculate your arrival time. You have to rethink where you were planning to park. You may be late, but you do not have to give up on getting to class or work. You just have to stop and figure out how to adjust to this unplanned event. 

Now back to you – today. If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy you may feel the same way.

So what should you do now? You’re not alone – we’re here to help with that.

    • Second, consider your options. A detour does not mean you cannot move forward. A detour offers you an opportunity to consider other routes. You can still arrive at your destination and reach your goal. At Alcove Health, we provide FREE options consultations and a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings.
    • Third, remember that unplanned does not mean impossible, insurmountable, or hopeless! The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines unplanned as “not expected or intended.” What the definition does not include are words like insurmountable, impossible, or hopeless. Having an unplanned pregnancy does not mean that it is no longer possible to achieve your goals. It does not mean that your life or the life of your child will be dim and hopeless. Sometimes the best part of the journey is the unexpected detour that allows you to discover amazing things you would never have seen.
  • If you’re trying to figure out how to handle the detour of an unplanned pregnancy in your life – contact us! Call or click here to request your free medical appointment. Here at Alcove Health, we see you and we want to help. Our free services including pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, options consults – and even STI testing. A detour doesn’t mean your life is over; it means it’s time to make a plan. We can help with that!

By Karen, Client Advocate

June 15, 2022

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What Makes a Condom Fail?

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What Makes a Condom Fail?

Condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs like gonorrhea, chlamydia, and trich if they are used properly and every time you have sex. The important takeaway here is properly and every time. STI testing is so important because condoms fail if not used properly.

If your boyfriend has been storing his condoms in his wallet for the last few years just waiting for a chance to use them, they are probably expired. That’s right, condom boxes and packages have expiration dates! Or let’s say he has kept them in the glove box of his car, through the cold of winter and the heat of summer – the chances of them still being effective are pretty low. These conditions can make condoms fail.

So it is important that condoms be used before their expiration date. You also want to make sure the condom isn’t worn down from being carried around and that the package isn’t opened by something sharp – if you want it to work. It’s also important that the condom is the right size, you have proper lubrication, and there is room left at the tip to prevent breakage.

It is difficult enough to get him to use one, so make sure it is still in good working condition when he does. After all, why would you wear one just to have the condom fail?

If by some chance the condom breaks during sex, you need to stop immediately and use a new one. But there will still be questions in the back of your mind – What if I’m pregnant? What if he gave me an STI? Was I exposed long enough for either of these to happen?

When a condom breaks, there is always a chance that a pregnancy could occur or an STI could have been transferred.  Remember that many people who have an STI are not aware that they have one – so you can’t rely on symptoms to let you know if you’ve been exposed! A condom fail is a sign that you need to be tested – for pregnancy and an STI.

So, if you missed your period or have a positive pregnancy test, rather than sitting at home stressing about being pregnant and having an STI, click here or call to request your free appointment at Alcove Health. Located in Newport News, we provide a pregnancy test with each STI appointment and we offer STI testing with every pregnancy appointment. All of our services are provided for free – and yes, when we say free, we mean completely free. So stop worrying about your condom fail and get peace of mind. Request your confidential appointment today.

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June 8, 2022

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Where Can I Get a Pregnancy Test?

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Where Can I Get A Free Pregnancy Test?

You Can Get a Medical Grade Pregnancy Test for FREE at Alcove Health

A positive result for a pregnancy test may send you running in all directions trying to find a quick solution to your problem.

But slow down. Or, as my parents used to say, “Hold your horses.” Not sure how we got that expression, but I sure know what it means. And it may never be more important to slow down than during the frenzy that often comes after getting an unexpected positive pregnancy test.

Especially if the positive test is also unwanted.

Before you start making a plan, though, you need to make sure the information you have is accurate. It’s hard to get an answer right if you start out with incorrect information.

Home pregnancy tests are good. There are times though, when you may not want to trust your situation to anyone other than a professional.

That’s where we come in. Alcove Health A Women’s Clinic provides confidential and free pregnancy tests – no gimmicks, we promise. And not just any kind of test, but a reliable, lab-grade pregnancy test administered by a Registered Nurse. For when you need to be confident that the answer you have is accurate.

So call us. Today. We’ll set up an appointment for you. You’ll find a safe place to process your options, get medically accurate information, and get a reliable answer to your pregnancy test.

Why double-check? Because every month, we see women who think they are pregnant, but test negative here in our clinic. This test is important. We can help you be certain.

Oh, and we offer free ultrasounds, too! If your test is positive, you can get all the information you need to make a wise decision. Right here in our clinic. All for free.

So don’t wait another day wondering if you can trust your pregnancy test – call us today!

Click here to make a no-cost appointment today at Alcove Health in Newport News, Virginia – or call 757-591-8141.

By Sheri, Client Advocate

January 21, 2021

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