I’m Pregnant And My Boyfriend Is In Jail

I’m pregnant and my boyfriend is in jail
I’m pregnant and my boyfriend is in jail

I’m Pregnant And My Boyfriend Is In Jail

You are not alone, and this situation happens more often than you may think.

Right now, there may be several thoughts going through your mind. You are not alone, and this situation happens more often than you may think. We want you to know we are here for you. You may be afraid to go through pregnancy alone, you may be afraid to go through birth alone, or you may even be afraid that your boyfriend is not the father. If your boyfriend is in jail and you’re considering an abortion, one of the first places to start is with a free abortion consultation.

If you are feeling scared, alone, or even embarrassed, take a deep breath and a moment to call Alcove Women’s Health Clinic. We can help you process your thoughts and emotions as well as help you with any medical questions you may have. 

Making a pregnancy decision is permanent, but try not to make a rash decision based on temporary circumstances and try not to allow the actions of others to dictate your future. Our trained client advocates can help you process this situation, and our registered nurses can help you get answers. During your confidential consultation you will have a safe space to process your feelings and ask questions in complete privacy.

At Alcove Health Women’s Clinic, we hear you and we know you want to get answers to all your questions. We know you need support – especially if you are trying to make a pregnancy decision. All our services are at no cost to you and our trained client advocates can also help you with over 300 community resources.

Since your boyfriend is in jail, you may also be concerned that he is not the father. At Alcove Health, we provide no-cost medical services including ultrasounds. Early pregnancy ultrasounds are the most accurate way to measure the age of the pregnancy. Knowing the age of the pregnancy gives the best-estimated conception date. And with a conception date, you will likely have the information you need to determine the father.

At Alcove Health Women’s Clinic in Newport News, we provide a safe space for you to process your options, along with the medically accurate information you need to make an informed decision. It can be unsettling going through an unplanned pregnancy, especially if your boyfriend is in jail. We’re here to support you.  Call us today  or go online to schedule your no-cost appointment. 

By Sylvia, Client Advocate

March 29, 2022

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Can My Boyfriend Make Me Get an Abortion?

Man and woman disagreeing over getting an abortion
Man and woman disagreeing over getting an abortion

Can My Boyfriend Make Me Get an Abortion?

His loud voice can seem louder than yours. But your voice is still there. And your voice matters.

From the moment you thought you might be pregnant, your boyfriend’s words have centered on one option: abortion. He’s loud and relentless. He’s confident it’s the right choice. But you’re not. Looking at the pregnancy test, you wonder, “Can my boyfriend make me get an abortion?”

No, no he can’t.

Repeat that to yourself: “My boyfriend can’t make me get an abortion.”

He can insist, he can yell, he can argue – but he still doesn’t have the legal or moral right to pressure you into having an abortion. Even if you agreed to abort before you knew you were pregnant. Even if you agreed to abort yesterday, for that matter.

The law is clear. In the U.S. It is illegal for your boyfriend – or anyone else – to force you to get an abortion.

It’s not just wrong – it’s against the law. As in, it’s criminal.

Legal abortion requires you – the woman carrying the pregnancy – to consent to the procedure done to your body.

But what about emotional pressure? There’s a lot of manipulation and gaslighting that can happen without him actually putting you in a car and dragging you into an abortion clinic.

We listen to our clients and we’ve heard the things he says: “I’ll leave you if you don’t have an abortion” or “I’m not going to help you if you have the baby.” Or this one: “We’ll get married if you abort, and then we can start a family.”

All from him. His loud words in her head pushing her toward the outcome he wants – abortion.

An unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming. Add to that all the concerns you have running through your head about him. What if he leaves? What if he won’t support the baby? What if… so many what-ifs about him.

His loud voice can seem louder than yours. But your voice is still there. And your voice matters.

I have some questions for you: Aren’t you tired? Wouldn’t you like a chance to clear your head and be heard? Doesn’t it matter what’s going on inside your heart and head?

See, you can’t make someone else listen, but you can choose a different audience. We want to be that audience. Here at Alcove Health Women’s Clinic, every woman is seen and heard. We’ve helped thousands of local women with their pregnancies – wanted pregnancies and unwanted pregnancies.

We’re all about you.

You’re not alone and you can still live out your story. But this is your story. Don’t let someone else write it. Sacrifice and compromise are important in relationships – but not sacrifices that wreck your heart, mind, and body. You deserve better than that. You deserve real support and real hope.

Contact us today for your no-cost appointment to discuss your options and receive the medical services you need (like a pregnancy test, ultrasound, and STI/STD testing) to make a safe decision for your reproductive health. We want to hear you and we’re here for you. Call us today.

By Sherri, Client Relations Manager

February 1st, 2022

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My Boyfriend Wants Me to Have an Abortion

My Boyfriends Wants Me To Get An Abortion
My Boyfriends Wants Me To Get An Abortion

MY BOYFRIEND WANTS ME TO GET AN ABORTION

"Will he leave me if I don’t get the abortion? Will I resent him for getting an abortion I don’t want?"

Neither of you planned to get pregnant. The actual unplanned part is what makes an unplanned pregnancy so tough – on you and your relationship. This is exactly why an abortion consultation can be so helpful – especially if he wants you to get an abortion and you’re not sure.

Earlier in the relationship, you may have discussed what you’d do “just in case” you got pregnant.

You may have even talked about a plan. We’ll get an abortion. It was simpler then.

But now, with a positive pregnancy test in front of you, a real pregnancy feels very different from the idea of a pregnancy.

The more you think about it, the more you don’t want the abortion.

He’s not unsure at all, though. 

He wants you to get an abortion.  

It may seem like this is a no-win situation. Either you give in or he gives in – and he’s not budging, so you wrestle with so many thoughts. Will he leave me if I don’t get the abortion? Will he stay and resent me? Will I resent him for getting an abortion I don’t want?

All good questions that are worthy of answers. So what do you do with those questions and how can you work through answers? 

You request a no-cost appointment at Alcove Health Women’s Clinic and bring him with you to the appointment. 

Why? Because for decades we’ve been helping women – and men – in unplanned pregnancies and we’ve found that a lot of pregnancy disagreements come from not communicating well and not understanding factual information.

So rather than make a decision based on shock, fear, wrong information – or even a previous agreement – you can find a safe space at Alcove Health for both of you to process your feelings and learn all your options. You can have an honest conversation based on medically-evidenced information and medical services. 

Together.

You deserve it. Even though it is tough. Even though it may feel like giving in will make things easier for the relationship. This decision is life-changing and deserves more than a quick fix. It’s worth the hard work to understand one another well.

And then, what if you still don’t see eye-to-eye? What if you still disagree? Well, you’ll know you’ve worked hard to communicate. You will understand everything you need to know and you won’t be alone. 

Because you’re not alone. We see you and we want to help.

Call Alcove Health in Newport News as your first contact. You’ll keep all your options. You’ll pay nothing. 

And you’ll gain everything you need to make a decision that’s right for you.

By Sherri, Client Relations Manager

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Why Won’t My Boyfriend Support My Decision to have an Abortion?

Why won't my boyfriend support my decision to have an abortion?
Why won't my boyfriend support my decision to have an abortion?

Why won’t my boyfriend support my decision to have an abortion?

First, let me tell you I am a man. I have never been pregnant and I never will be. It may seem odd to find a man’s blog on a women’s clinic website.

But let me tell you why it isn’t.

Because even though it’s still your decision, I think it’s smart to include him in the abortion consultation process while you are trying to decide whether or not to get an abortion. Whether he’s your boyfriend, husband, or friend – his opinion matters to you…it’s why you’re reading this post!

Look, women make pregnancy decisions all the time. They decide whether they want to abort or carry their pregnancies to term.

And then do you know what happens afterward? 

Life continues for the woman. On the other side of this pregnancy decision is the rest of your life. Maybe even with the man you don’t agree with right now.  If you got a new job and had to move across the country, you’d talk to him about it first.  

A pregnancy decision is on that level for him and that’s why he doesn’t want you to cut him out of it.  You need to have that talk.

Over time, relationships work best with honest conversations – even if those conversations include disagreements.

What doesn’t work?

Silence – shutting him out. You may be saying he’s the one giving you the silent treatment. That’s fair. It doesn’t work well when it comes from his end either. And silence – from either person – doesn’t answer any questions. 

Assumptions don’t work either but usually follow the silent treatment. Assuming you know his intentions behind his disagreement is a gamble. 

Maybe he doesn’t understand abortion. Maybe he’s worried about you and your health. Maybe he is full of feelings he doesn’t even understand himself. I’ll admit it, we’re not always the best at communication. 

But you know what? It’s worth the hard work to understand one another. That way there’s no bitterness on the other side of this decision – in the future, you may not even be able to imagine right now.

So, at Alcove Health Women’s Clinic, they include men all the time. The catch? There’s only one. The woman – the client – has to consent to have him included.

That’s right, you are the one who gets to decide who’s included in your appointment. 

A lot happens when women bring their friend, boyfriend, or husband with them to their appointments. Like conversations – women and men hearing one another and being heard. The decisions afterward are different for each couple. But, the process is really important.

Call us today at 757-591-8141 to schedule your no-cost appointment (all medical services are free) and then bring him with you. Alcove Health Women’s Clinic in Newport News is a safe space for both of you to process your feelings and understand your options.

Be seen. Be heard. At Alcove Health. 

Call today.

By Ryan, Guest Blogger

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My Girlfriend is Pregnant, What Do I Do?

Young man thinking about HIS feelings now that he found out his girlfriend is pregnant
Young man thinking about HIS feelings now that he found out his girlfriend is pregnant

My Girlfriend is Pregnant, What Do I Do?

“Her body. Her choice.” But now, you may find yourself thinking, “We’re pregnant.”

So you just got what feels like the worst news of your life.

You thought your girlfriend’s period was just late. You hoped her period was just late. Then she took a pregnancy test and got an answer.

It’s positive.  She’s pregnant. What are you going to do now?

You’ve got a lot of things to think about. Are you ready to parent? How do you feel about abortion? Adoption? Will you even be included in the conversation?

You’ve heard the saying – “Her body. Her choice.” But now, you may find yourself thinking, “We’re pregnant.” This is suddenly about you, too.  And that’s OK.

We’re Here to Help:

    • First – slow down. Emotions and anxiety are usually high after seeing a positive pregnancy test result – that’s normal! Urgency is not your friend here. This is her life – and your life, too. It’s worth it to slow down and get this right.
    • Next, have an open conversation with your girlfriend. Listen well and speak honestly. You both have thoughts and feelings – and you both matter.
    • Then – and this is important – understand that likely, neither of you has all the information you need to make an informed pregnancy decision. How far along is she, exactly? Is there even a fetal heartbeat? Making a decision without answers to these questions just doesn’t make sense. This is a time where what you don’t know could actually hurt you.

This is where Alcove Health comes in –  call us. You don’t have to handle this alone. We can help you get the answers you need.

We are Alcove Health Women’s Clinic. Don’t let the name fool you. We know that every single pregnancy has a man involved. We are a safe place, for both of you, to talk about all your options and get medically accurate information. In addition, if your girlfriend is pregnant she can receive medical services like a free ultrasound. All in a confidential setting and – if she consents – with you included. Those questions we mentioned before? An ultrasound can answer them.

Good News:

During COVID, we are pleased to continue to allow each woman the option to bring a guest with her to her appointment. We encourage women to make that one person the father of her baby.   Why? Because we listen to women. When asked, women say the father of the baby is the most influential person in her pregnancy decision. You are pretty important.

So why not make Alcove Health in Newport News your next step and her next call? Encourage her to call us today.  We will talk with her, explain our services, and make a no-cost appointment for her. We respect her and hope she will include you in the process. It’s that simple.

By Sherri, Client Advocate

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My Boyfriend and Abortion

My boyfriend wants me to have an abortion. What do I do?
My boyfriend wants me to have an abortion. What do I do?

My Boyfriend & Abortion

he wants me to abort

Neither of you wanted to get pregnant – on that, you and your boyfriend agree.  A positive pregnancy test, though, just made everything real. A real pregnancy, requiring a real answer.

It’s hard to think clearly when you feel like your world just turned upside down. But, you need to think clearly.

At this point, it doesn’t matter how you got here – a broken condom, a forgotten pill, or just a night when things got carried away. Regardless, there is a pregnancy.

So you have a hard conversation. Together. “What are we going to do?”

Unfortunately, your answer and his don’t match. Yes, the pregnancy is unplanned, but you’re not sure abortion is the choice that’s right for you. Your boyfriend is sure. In fact, abortion is the only option he wants to discuss.

This is too big of a decision to make under pressure. In fact, it’s illegal for anyone to try to force you to have an abortion. That’s how big of a decision this is.

So now what do you do?

We can’t solve every problem, but we can help with this one. The question, “What do I do if my boyfriend wants me to abort?” can be answered right here at Alcove Health with an abortion consultation. For both of you.

That’s right, Alcove Health Women’s Clinic is the answer. Call today to make an appointment. We are a safe space to process and learn all your options. Judgment-free, confidential, and FREE. You will have a chance to ask questions, be informed, and receive medical services – including a pregnancy test and an ultrasound. You deserve medically-evidenced information to make the best decision for your reproductive health.

And, one more thing. We know this is a stressful situation for everyone involved. You are welcome to bring your boyfriend and have him be part of the conversation, too. Your choice.  We see you. We want to help. There’s a lot to think about and our team of trained staff and nurses are ready to help. Call 757-591-8141 today.

Click here to make a no-cost appointment today.

By Sherri, Client Advocate

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My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Me to Abort

Pregnant and considering abortion? But your boyfriend doesn't want you to?
Pregnant and considering abortion? But your boyfriend doesn't want you to?

My Boyfriend Doesn't Want Me To Abort

You thought it was a straightforward and easy decision

So you took the test and got the answer. You’re pregnant. The answer you dreaded. Suddenly, your whole life is turned upside down. You’d always imagined what you would do if you got in this spot. You thought it was a straightforward and easy decision.  Until… you told your boyfriend. Suddenly, the simple answer gets messy.  You are sure what you want to do. He’s sure, too. He’s sure he doesn’t want you to have an abortion.

Now what?

You know the clock is ticking. You know you need to make a decision. You also know that legally you can make this decision alone, without him. The thing is, you really care about your boyfriend. Right? I mean, you care about how he feels and you know he cares about you. When you try to talk about it, though, it just seems to get nowhere.

You just need a safe space to sort everything out. Together. To hear and be heard. A place where you and your boyfriend can get an abortion consultation. We see you and we want to help.

There is a safe space to process all your options, talk about everything, and get medically-evidenced information. For BOTH of you. This is something the two of you can work out together. After all, you got into it together, right? That place is Alcove Health Women’s Clinic. It’s a clinic for women, but men are always welcome to come along. All he needs is to have you include him.

Alcove Health Women’s Clinic respects that women live in relationships. We honor these relationships. We know that people make confident decisions together when everyone involved has truthful information. After all, many women continue in their relationships AFTER they make their pregnancy decision – whether it’s an abortion, parenting, or adoption. Doesn’t it make sense to make a decision with that end in mind?

Choosing abortion isn’t as simple as some make it seem. Wouldn’t you like to work it out with your boyfriend, in a judgement-free place where you both can process your options, ask questions, and be informed? There’s a lot to think about, but our team of trained staff and nurses are ready to help.  You owe it to yourself to take a moment, breathe, and allow your boyfriend to do the same. Get the facts. Know the truth.

Call 757-591-8141 or click HERE to schedule your free and confidential appointment – with services including a pregnancy test, options consultation, and ultrasound.

We’re eager to see you both.

By Sherri, Client Advocate

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