The hookup culture and its cost

Hook-Up Culture & It's Cost

Take the time to genuinely like who you are and guard your worth.

The Culture

The hook-up culture has become quite common these days. Some may say, “It’s what everyone does!” Easier than having a relationship – friends with benefits, no commitment, no worries about cheating, have fun, and move on. Sure, it seems harmless. It may appear to be a hassle-free arrangement, but have you thought about the long-term, or sometimes even short-term effects of a hook-up? Is this what you really want?  Let’s talk honestly about some things to consider:

The Cost

Pregnancy is always a possibility even though you may have used a condom or birth control. Consider this…would you want to have a baby with this person? Another major consideration is the risk of STI/STD’s (sexually transmitted infection/sexually transmitted disease).  The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reports there are nearly 20 million new sexually transmitted infections that occur every year – adolescents age 15-24 being the highest impacted by STDs. Consider how contracting an STD may impact your health and your future relationships. As far as STDs go, “Consistent and correct use of male latex condoms can reduce (though not eliminate) the risk of STD transmission.” Keywords: consistent and correct use. We all hear of stories where a condom comes off or rips. That’s why Alcove Health offers free STI/STD testing when women come for their free pregnancy tests; both are a possible result from a hook up.

The Chemicals

Every human brain-no matter who you are, where you live, or what your circumstances may be-reacts when you have sex, or any other intimate encounter with another person.  When this happens, your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin, also known as the “hug hormone.”  The rush of these bonding chemicals released during sex is designed to help you create a cemented memory, trust, and stay loyal to the person to whom you are giving yourself. That’s beneficial in a long-term relationship where you’re both committed to making it last. In a hook-up, you set the rush of chemicals in motion and then you tell it to stop. Not an easy road for your heart to follow. “In fact, research indicates that it can foster negative emotions in the long run. Many who’d had uncommitted sex reported experiencing regret after an encounter and found that men and women who had engaged in casual sex had lower self-esteem and depression symptoms. The cost of a hook-up may be more than you desired.

Be Courageous

Think seriously about deleting that Tinder App and stop trying to prove something to yourself and others.  Take the time to genuinely like who you are and guard your worth.  You know yourself better than anyone! When caught up in “the moment,” it’s easy to forget how we may feel later. And yes, it is hard to slow down in “the moment”; but take time to evaluate if such a lifestyle is beneficial in helping you to become the person you want to be. Is it helping you reach your goals and move you forward into the future you always dreamed of? Is the risk of an unplanned pregnancy or an unwanted STD worth the moment”?

Get Care

Alcove Health Women’s Clinic is here for you if you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy and need a safe place to process and learn all of your options.  You deserve medically- evidenced information to make the best decision for your reproductive health. All for free and with total confidentiality.  Get Help-Find Hope-Be Truly Empowered!  Call us today at 757-591-8141 or schedule an appointment online.

By Stephanie, Client Advocate



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