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An unexpected pregnancy can stir up a lot of emotions! Babies are a big responsibility and can bring many challenges. How does one navigate through the emotions of wanting the baby, but not the father? A woman can feel trapped in the relationship once a baby is in the picture, but that’s not the case. If you find yourself in this situation, continue reading for some tips on how to work through it successfully.
Mothers are responsible for their child’s well-being, but they also need to make sure they’re supported as well. If you don’t believe the father is willing or able to provide the support that you or your baby will require, it’s important to start building your support team! Making the decision that you don’t want a relationship with your baby’s father doesn’t mean you will raise your child alone. The life of a single parent can be challenging, but with support around you, it can be rewarding as well. Begin with having honest conversations with your family and closest friends. Make them aware of what you have decided and be transparent about the help and support that you will need. Involvement in a single mothers support group is another way to receive encouragement and support. Meeting with a pastor, counselor, or doctor about what to expect and getting their advice on your situation can be reassuring too.
A crucial step is to determine the level of involvement you want the father to have in the pregnancy, birth, and upbringing of your child. Every relationship is distinct and has special circumstances. The following are some points to consider:
The final step will be having a conversation with him. A last-minute decision to talk is not wise. Put your thoughts on paper and try to be prepared for how to respond to his reactions. It is important to explain that you’re making the decision that you think will be best for you and your child. Surprise, disappointment, or feeling offended are the most common responses. Give him the time to process and to take time to listen to what he has to say.
In the meantime, schedule an appointment today and enjoy a judgement-free, safe place to process your feelings, ask questions and get advice. All for free and with total confidentiality!
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